Life Lesson # 2 – If you can’t stand to be with you, how can you expect anyone else to?
Clearly I must love my own company as I’m just getting back from an 8 hour car ride to
. There’s something to be said about you, your dog and the open road. I feel like its cleansing and liberating…also PLENTY of time to think about your life. Oklahoma
I had one friend say that there’s no way they could make that kind of drive, or any car trip, over an hour by themselves. Really? That makes me think – why not?
What is it about your own company that you can’t stand to be with you for more than an hour? That leads me to when I used to go out to eat or to the movies by myself – even as a teenager. My mom used to tell me, if you’re always waiting on someone else to do something you’ll end up doing nothing. So if I want to do – I’ll do by myself. I have friends that can’t go out to eat, or to the movies, or to the beach…any where by themselves that would force you to “be with you”. As my friend Erin said, where you go - you go. So when are you going to deal with yourself?
Which goes to my next point, if you don’t enjoy your own company why are you lookin’ for a relationship? How do you expect someone else to like you, love you, want to be around you…when you can’t stand to be with you? Deep huh? When was the last time you spent some time by yourself without any distractions? No TV, no phone, no music, no friends...nothing that would keep you from focusing on yourself and your thoughts?
Point: Time to spend some time with yourself. You may just like what you find…and if you don’t, do something about it.
Now, all of the things I write are my life's lessons. I share so that maybe others can learn from what I've been through or seen. I don't have all the answers (well, maybe most...) but its something to ponder. I'm not a therapist and this is not intended to provide counseling or advice. Just someone who feels they've learned a thing or two.