Monday, June 6, 2011

When Stayin' is Worse than Leavin'...

Life Lesson #30 – Trouble don’t last always. But it does when you keep on letting it come over.

There was a time when I thought I was so in love with this guy – we’ll call him Trouble- that when he called, any time day or night, I would answer and be too happy to see him. Even after we broke up, and he had gotten a new girlfriend, and on his way to the altar. **Suggest you don’t judge – cuz you just got a text from your Trouble**

Then finally one day when he called at 3:00a.m. saying he couldn’t make it home and wanted to come by my house because it was closer – I finally said ‘No’. Granted, Trouble was shocked and kept prodding and when he realized I was serious he hung up and never called me again. I was quite proud of myself for finally realizing I was worth more and deserved more than the little **pun intended** I was getting.

So why do we do it? You know that person is trouble! But he/she loves you, and they don’t mean to just call you when its convenient, right? **Puh-lease don’t look at me like that**. Just this last time and this is it. I’m over them, and they are NOT, repeat NOT coming back over here ringing my phone, knocking at my door at 2:00a.m. like I’m some jump off **humpfff**. Sounds familiar, don’t it? Should as I’m sure you just said those very words last night or this morning.

We continue to let Trouble come over and keep us from our true blessings. You cry and complain about how they treat you, but yet you invite it over, answer their call and open the door, and then cook them breakfast the next morning. What have they done to feed your soul and not just your urges? **ouch! That was a low blow**

There has to be a point when stayin’ with this person is worse than leavin’ them alone. Don’t block your blessings by being tied to someone who isn’t concerned about your well-being but how well you can…well, anyway tell Trouble you’re done, take back your key, delete their phone number, and smile knowing you’ve just made room for Possibility, or Hope, or Opportunity or Happiness.

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Now, all of the things I write are my life's lessons. I share so that maybe others can learn from what I've been through or seen. I don't have all the answers (well, maybe most...) but its something to ponder. I'm not a therapist and this is not intended to provide counseling or advice. Just someone who feels they've learned a thing or two.