Sunday, July 24, 2011

Fools Rush In...

Life Lesson #9 – Never be the same fool twice.

Now some may question whether it’s ok to be a fool more than one time on different things. **Ummm…no** However, I will say that there are times we do fall into the fool role because we are blinded by our current situation or circumstance. This is similar to that old adage: fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

Why do we think that when a person shows us who they really are on multiple occasions that they are going to change because of us? That if we just hang on a little longer they will see how fantabulous we are? **news flash: they know, which is why you’re still around** If we just do those things they ask of us, then we’ll get closer to the goal of having a real relationship. **oy vey!**

I will admit, unfortunately, I have been the fool a time or two. Hey, I’m a hopeless romantic. **don’t judge me!** Every now and then you gotta watch the movie, “He’s Just Not That Into You” to get your bearings back. Is this person you’re hung up on worth the time, tears, and energy you have invested in them when they have not given you the same courtesy? Or did you start out as the jump off thinking that you would some how become the significant other? **pssst…remember, it didn’t work the last time either**

So, as I say to you, and repeat to myself, what are you worth? It’s not to say that this person you like, or love, isn’t a good person…but are they good for you? What have they added to your life since you began walking down this path? Have you been realistically fulfilled? If not, then what’s the hang up? Why are you holding on to someone that clearly doesn’t have your best interest at heart?

Moral: Hello, my name is Ann and I’ve been a fool twice.

Readers: **said in unison** Hi, Ann

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Now, all of the things I write are my life's lessons. I share so that maybe others can learn from what I've been through or seen. I don't have all the answers (well, maybe most...) but its something to ponder. I'm not a therapist and this is not intended to provide counseling or advice. Just someone who feels they've learned a thing or two.