Life Lesson #12: Learn to let it go. You can’t move forward when you’re always looking back, or when you’re hanging on to something you’re not supposed to have.
In college I had these 2 jersey knit/sweatshirt material mini skirts that I wore all the time. I LOVED them, do you hear me? L-O-V-E-D them. Primarily because they showed off my fantabulous set of gams. Well, after college I still had them and still wore them – hey I still had the legs for ‘em. But, as we grow and things change *I still had the gams but acquired an arse* there is a time when we have to let things go.
Finally, about 6 years after college *don’t judge me* my friend had a little chat with me and said – it’s time to let them go. I was shocked and appalled at the very thought she wanted me to get rid of my prized possessions. Those skirts represented my youth and carefree times in college. How could I possibly give those up? After much encouragement *and a visit or 2 to my liquor cabinet* I put them in the “give away” bag and sent them off to some charity *probably Goodwill* Do you know I was actually hurt. HURT by the fact that I let those skirts go. Even now, there are times where I go to my closet to pull them out.
Now why did those skirts mean so much to me? They were pieces fabric sewn together. I was holding onto what I thought they meant – youth, being carefree, college days…wasn’t ready to give them up and live this oh so real adult life. They were nostalgic – no different than someone keeping their lettermans jacket *do they still have those?* I realized I wasn’t supposed to have those skirts anymore – I’d grown up in every other way but wanted to hang on to something of the past. But they didn’t fit anymore…hmmm. So why would I hold on to something that no longer fit me or reflected who I was?
Some of you are hanging on to a skirt, and dare I say, a relationship that should have been let go of a long time ago. It doesn’t fit anymore; it doesn’t compliment you and doesn’t enhance who you are – today. We have to learn to go of things that are keeping us from moving forward and enhancing our lives.
What do you need to take out of your closet and put in the “give away” bag?
Now, all of the things I write are my life's lessons. I share so that maybe others can learn from what I've been through or seen. I don't have all the answers (well, maybe most...) but its something to ponder. I'm not a therapist and this is not intended to provide counseling or advice. Just someone who feels they've learned a thing or two.