Life Lesson #26 – Be a woman. The difference between a woman and a lady: a lady does what is expected of her, and a woman does what she expects of herself.
As a little girl, my mom always used to tell me, honey when you grow up you want to be a woman, not a lady – there’s a difference. **yes, I actually listened to my mom on occasion**
As the story goes: In college, her Dorm Mother used to tell her there’s a difference between a lady and woman – a lady does what others expect of her and a woman does what she expects of herself; therefore be a woman. **did you guys know this?**
This statement was so profound it became etched on my soul, and I’m still learning what it truly means. I strive to meet and exceed the expectations I place upon myself, not those that others place upon me. **it’s quite liberating, really…like being on the nudey beach**
I see it like this: if I am doing what makes me happy, accomplishing the goals I have set for myself, and aiming to be the woman God needs me to be – then what I have set out for myself will always far exceed what others have tried to set for me. **make sense?**
Put another way: I don’t try to live up to others expectations; I set my own and live up to those. **two snaps in a circle with a twist**
So, I say to you females out there –strive to be a woman and be an example to those little girls in your life of what a real woman is and does. I’ve had several friends find out as an adult, that they were raised to be a lady. **not a comforting epiphany at 35** They were still being controlled by the expectations of their parents, aunts/uncles, spouse…and in essence lost themselves or, worse, never really knew who they were. **Umm…have you seen Runaway Bride…Julia Roberts…Richard Gere…?!**
Fellas – make sure you know the difference: it seems you say you want a woman and end up with a lady. Chances are you didn’t have a woman to begin with **ya think?**
Now, all of the things I write are my life's lessons. I share so that maybe others can learn from what I've been through or seen. I don't have all the answers (well, maybe most...) but its something to ponder. I'm not a therapist and this is not intended to provide counseling or advice. Just someone who feels they've learned a thing or two.