Holding the door open may get you some...

Clearly I'm being facetious...kind of, but I’m just curious…does any other woman find it odd or is surprised when a man holds a door open for you? Or, allows you to go first in line? My first thought is, what the heck does he want? He’s probably gonna tail me and follow me home; or peep over my shoulder so he can see my debit card password *yeah, I know psycho*

And then it hits me, that I’ve become conditioned, reprogrammed, untrained as to what to expect or how a man should treat me. You know, those little things of courtesy. You’re actually taken aback when it happens! *pitiful*

I remember I went to visit a friend down in Atlanta and I was walking to the store to pay and this man waited, do you hear me, waited for me and held the door open! All he said was, Afternoon Miss. After being treated with such courtesy, I was welcomed back home to Maryland by a man allowing a door to slam in my face and thereafter watch me struggle with my luggage. Ahh…yeah…home.

So, is it really what region you’re in? Now that I’m in St. Louis I do get men holding doors open for me, calling me ma’am and such. But is chivalry dead? Are little boys being taught that they should hold the door open, pull out her chair, help her put her coat on, walk on the correct side of the sidewalk…and on the flipside are little girls learning that’s what they should expect.

I must say, I’ve gotten to a point where I expect it and will stand at a door until it is opened *occasionally awkward, especially when he starts the car and puts it in gear, but I’m standing on principle!*

Add that to my list of qualities I’m looking for in a man…I mean is that too much to ask?

Cue the music - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPUsQDm-HQY

*although from previous post, you already know how I feel about the term “lady” vs. “woman”…but it fits sooo…*

OR

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yi6dqhi8Ptw

Now, all of the things I write are my life's lessons. I share so that maybe others can learn from what I've been through or seen. I don't have all the answers (well, maybe most...) but its something to ponder. I'm not a therapist and this is not intended to provide counseling or advice. Just someone who feels they've learned a thing or two.