Life Lesson # 59 – Don’t go diggin’ up relationships.
Has your soul ever gone fishin’? In other words, gone back through your relationships to one that wasn't quite finished? One you know you could pick back up and start up again? Or as my mom told me, dig up a relationship?
Learned that one the hard way: You see sometimes I got tired of waiting on God **the nerve, I know** to provide me with a relationship or “THE” relationship so I figured I’d lend a hand. **yeah, I know** So, I’d go through my heart’s rolodex and see who had left a door open. Hmmm…and I’d think well what about them? So, let’s call them up and reconnect.
**sounds familiar doesn’t it? Yeah, don’t send that text ‘til you finish reading this**
The result, you may ask? Let's just say, that door is now definitely closed and sealed with brick and mortar. In other words, there’s now closure. **shivers with the memories**
My mom told me, honey, you can’t go diggin’ up relationships.
At the time it didn’t make sense. Years later – it makes complete sense. Time to stop trying to control something in essence you really have no control over. The person you are to be with will come along when he or she is supposed to…your Adam will wake up (when he's ready for you) and will know who you are, or your Eve will be there when you wake up (when you're ready for her). I just hope we’re all paying attention when it happens. It may not be who you think it is or should be, but be open nonetheless.
Trust me, this is a hard one for me – when you’re lonely, or really cared for someone, your heart wanders, or goes fishin’ or starts diggin’. Has your soul gone fishin’? How many relationships have you dug up? Or, let’s be real, you’re diggin’ right now, ain’t cha?
Now, all of the things I write are my life's lessons. I share so that maybe others can learn from what I've been through or seen. I don't have all the answers (well, maybe most...) but its something to ponder. I'm not a therapist and this is not intended to provide counseling or advice. Just someone who feels they've learned a thing or two.